Martial Arts and Life
This week I have come across many articles that relate to life in general. I have talked about a great many things. One of these days I came across an article shared on Facebook titled The Pink Gi in the Room. This article was one author’s experience in speaking with female martial artists about their experiences in the martial arts culture.
Many of the views expressed were those of frustration, and feelings of special or even poor treatment within the martial arts community simply because they are female. Having studied martial arts myself for ten years now I can say that I can sympathize with some of these view points.
I remember one instance especially when another student, younger than myself but of about the same skill level, was paired up with me for sparing. He said something like “I can’t spar you, you’re a girl.” I don’t remember what I said, but I remember being furious and humiliated all at once. I was still pretty new and was trying very hard to learn and improve and become stronger and in a single set of words all of that effort was discounted as pointless because I was a “girl”. I think I even took a few swings at him trying to force him to engage with me. He still didn’t and I was left frustrated and above all hurt.
Being 15, I couldn’t really articulate this, just be consumed by it. In this young mans defense he was younger than me and was brought up to respect women and treat them well and especially never to raise a hand against them.
Even at that time I could comprehend it, but that didn’t really make it fell better. After all I wasn’t a “girl” I was a training partner, I wanted to be the same, I wanted to learn; and his code was getting in the way of that!
To this day I see it, if I pick up dumbbells in the gym every now and again someone (generally a male) will stare for an unacceptably long time. I was even, just this week, doing sit-ups with an added punch set at the top of each repetition. Maybe he thought because I had headphones in I couldn’t hear him jab his buddy while watching me and say “How cute”.
Why? Why does this happen? Why can’t everyone just be people in a training environment and just train? Is it really necessary to apply these labels in this instance?
No, I truly do not believe it is!
Now I will say for the most part I had amazing instructors and training partners who did take into consideration that I was female but not in a way that made me feel I was any less for it. There was even a strong female presence in my school. It was something for us all to learn from and adjust to. As pointed out in the referenced article, women are in many cases smaller and have a lower center of gravity then our male training partners. This gives both partners a chance to learn how to work techniques to their most effective forms for different situations. When we shy away from one another because of something like different genders everyone looses valuable learning experiences.
Keiko Fukuda (1913-20130, dedicated her life to judo. She was the highest-ranked female judoka in history, holding the rank of 9th dan from the Kodokan, and 10th dan from USA Judo and from the United States Judo Federation, and was the last surviving student of Jigorō Kanō, founder of judo. Sourced from "The Pink Gi in the Room.
Also, I do know that not everyone is comfortable just jumping in and “rolling” with strangers especially if those strangers are physically more intimidating in size and strength, as can be the case in some pairings. This absolutely should be considered, especially for those new to the experience or those who have gone through a hard experiences.
I have pulled a few quotes from the article that struck me especially. I do not agree with all of them and will give my reasons for each as follows.
“We face issues with finding good training partners
that men do not face to the same extent, and yet when
we don’t do as well as the men because of this, it is attributed to our gender.”
This quote speaks a powerful truth in much of the fitness community. It poses a unique challenge in the martial arts world of one member of the pairing “pulling their punches”. In this case the other member does not benefit as much from the exercise. This is true no matter what gender the members of the pairing are, but I have seen it most often in male/female pairings VS male/male or female/female pairings.
“Place more women in positions of authority
and don’t be dismissive of women’s efforts.”
I think I know where this person was trying to get to with this statement but I think the wording is poor. I do not think anyone wants to be “placed” in any position if they do not have the skills to represent that position properly. I will sometimes be training alone and begin doubting all of the hard work I have put into my world to get to where I am. I will wonder if I was ever just “given” something because someone thought I needed a hand out, or even if I “achieved” something just because I was a “girl”. In those moments I must silence my inner judge/critic and be real wit myself. I work hard and have always worked hard for what I wanted. If I wanted a position I drove toward it with unwavering dedication.
So no, don’t “place” anyone in any position, but make those positions open to literally anyone with the best qualifications for that position. Let your students, co-workers, employees, EVRYONE know that anybody can go for a position they want. If more than one person wants the same position then have some form of process to fairly determine who has the better qualifications. If someone doesn’t make the cut give them feedback on where they could improve. That takes moral courage, and I would rather someone tell me that I can’t be “X” because of reasons A, B, & C than to be discounted or put into a position that I am not qualified for.
Of course I agree 100% with not dismissing women’s efforts. We should not dismiss anyone’s efforts.
“In BJJ, you are literally putting your life in your
partner’s hands every time they put you in a
choke-hold. You have to trust that they are going to
let go when you tap.”
This is true of many fields even outside of martial arts. If you cannot trust the people at your sides to do the right thing when the time comes then you will not be comfortable. At work, school or in the gym it does not matter. We must be there for one another, we must help one another and look out for one another. Especially in martial arts, we need to really listen to our partners. If I ask you to slow down, it could be for a number of reasons. I could be injured, missing a crucial part of the technique or over coming a deeply ingrained fear. It does not matter, as my partner your job is to help me by doing as I asked.
“By not treating and selling them as sex objects.
Give the women respect. Put them on the cover
of a magazine, tell their story.”
Again a problem seen throughout a vast majority of the world. In all manner of professions from CEO’s to athletes females are treated differently, either in the way we are paid or in the way we are publicized. In the fitness community all too often women are only used as sex symbols.
This is a shame not only because it alienates female athletes and professionals everywhere, but, also because it can and has led to women restricting themselves and not living up to everything they can achieve. When this happens we as a human species all lose out. It isn’t just the women, it is everything they never set out to teach us and everything they never will learn because they give into social pressure and fear. Honestly who can blame them?
There were many other great quotes in the article and I could spend days picking apart all of them. I would rather hear all of your thoughts on them, I would like to see us all share our stories. I was very fortunate to not only have a great community, but to have a beautiful and strong and encouraging female presence inside of that community balanced out well with males who didn’t treat us differently. I would like to see that grow and spread and continue through out all of the world.
Captain Carter, Stargate SG-1
Really I would like to see us as a human community remove gender from the fitness world. No, we do not all need to be the same cookie cutter model as the person next to us, but we also do not need to discount or enhance anyone because of their biological makeup or identification. I believe we should recognize one another as friends who we want to help grow and learn from with all of our differences and similarities.
If you do have this feeling that someone should be cherished and protected what better way is there to cherish them than to help them learn the skills to protect themselves? All of this amounts to a matter of mutual respect, if you aren’t genuinely helping your training partners by applying appropriate force, power, speed, proper technique and discussion then you are not respecting your partners. This doesn’t apply just to women, it applies to everyone.
So what is the solution? We can complain day in and day out but until we choose to take action we are no better than the rest of the legion of internet warriors who choose only to whine through their keyboards. Personally I believe the solution has already started. After all there was a time when just the thought of women training in combat arts was nothing more than a laughable ideal. Today women train in all manner of fitness and combat arts and have careers in all kinds of fields previously only open to men. We are closing the gap and everyday someone somewhere learns that sexism is really unacceptable to matter who it is from or directed at. This is a great step toward a world with true equality for everyone.
As members of the community we have a unique advantage we can actively effect the world in which we live. As instructors we can set to tone in our classrooms and training sessions that says “everyone is welcome and has something to learn and something to offer. We can open the dialog in forms such as this blog post, on social media, forums, as well as in person. We can refuse to support the status quo and call out marketers for sexualizing images and advertisements of our athletes both male and female alike. We can demand to be recognized as the dedicated badass people we are and not as anything else.
Arts is a world with a culture all its own that has changed much over the centuries.
Today many look at Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) as a form of entertainment and a demonstration
of the skills of a martial artist. Yet what happens when these demonstrations
happen outside of the ring and at the expense of an un-consenting person?
2010 over a dozen MMA fighters have been accused of domestic violence. This may
seem like a small number over the course of four years until you stop to really
think of how small the population of professional MMA fighters really is. In
September alone two well-known UFC fighters (“War Machine” and Josh Grispi) were
both involved is particularly gruesome domestic violence cases. Last year
Thiago Silva was temporarily cut from the UFC after he allegedly “put a gun in his now ex-wife's mouth to quiet her during an
argument over Silva's adultery” (Block, 2014). In a later incident Silva
apparently showed up at the gym his ex-wife trained at and threatened to shoot
the place up, this altercation ended with a SWAT team turning up to apprehend
the fighter. The charges against Silva were later dropped and his UFC contract
was reinstated. I really could go on with a few more of the cases I came across
while doing research for this article but I don’t really think it’s necessary,
you get the idea.
So what is the problem really?
Why do we or should we care? There are honestly a few answers to these
questions. The first being that on a human level no one should have to fear
abuse in their homes or by the people who claim to love them.
The second is the reason which
truly applies to us as martial artists which connects to the first reason is
the harm that cases like those previously mentioned hurt martial arts and
martial artists over all. Zach Arnold wrote an article for “Sherdog” which I
though made a good point. “What will neuter the
sport's growth is the violent image and stereotype of fighters being overly
tanned, testosterone-fueled, tattooed thugs who engage in domestic violence”(Arnold,
2014). These incidents really go
deeper than just perception of the UFC. They can cut to the heart of all atrial
artists, I was even recently told by a woman that she would never let her son
take martial arts because she would not want to him learn to beat people up.
"Take this you helpless inflatable thing!"
For this woman all martial arts
are in her perception is a means to violence. For those of us who have spent
any part of our lives as martial artists perusing self-improvement on all
levels this type of thought out in the world is damaging. I was actually hurt
to hear these words, and nothing I said could “fix” it. I was viewed as a bully
by a total stranger for just having my knowledge.
This idea that all martial artists
are is fighting rage machines has the potential to grow very quickly especially if these
celebrity fighters continue to be the spectacle of domestic violence cases. Unfortunately
of every negative act it takes five of even ten positive ones to negate it. So
what can be done? I have heard recommendations to boycott the UFC while I
myself don’t enjoy the fights of the octagon I don’t believe this is the fault
of the organization. People are sometimes mean, and they sometimes do mean
things. In 2013 the UFC implemented the “UFC Fighter Conduct Policy” which
refers to the fighters as “…ambassadors of the sport of mixed martial arts…”
this policy specifically states the disciplinary actions will be taken as a
result of certain infractions, one of which is “Violent, threatening of
harassing behavior”. This is a step in the right direction at the very least. I believe the only real way fix
this type of issue is for the fighters of MMA and all martial artists around
the globe to do their best to uphold and live by the Martial Moralities. I have
written on more than one occasion about them (Martial Moralities: A More In-depth Look), and while the list is mainly a mix of basic
values they seem to be wildly lacking in our culture as a whole. When you take
this lack of moral discipline and mix it with a fighter’s skills and
uncontrolled rage the result is a lot of people end up hurt.
Martial artists over all are
normal people with jobs and families and the vast majority of us have never
even had to use our skills to defend ourselves much less turn them on and
innocent creature. This is perception we must strive to reinforce of ourselves of
each other and of our schools. No matter your system, style, nation, race, or language
this is where we can come together for the good of us all. Together we can be
the example to followed and the proper ambassadors for martial arts.
Domestic violence is a very
really problem all over the world, but martial artists are not the reason for
that. The UFC is not the reason for that, nor the NFL nor any organization. The
fault lies with the perpetrators and them alone. We can counteract the damage
which has been done to the perception of martial arts but it will take time and
constant vigilance. Train hard and never give up!
The National Domestic Violence
The National Domestic Violence
We all get busy, work school, family stuff, house work; it
never ends and it can seem all consuming. So how do we recover ourselves after
a long leave of absence? Well I am myself just now figuring it out. All the
things I just listed have also trapped my in a cycle of a life without anything
else, namely Kung Fu. Considering I really enjoy Kung Fu not doing it (especially
due to things which are not nearly as fun) makes me very depressed. So what do
1: Reclaim your time.
Many resources for everything from healthy eating to fitness
and time management will tell you that if thing X is important to you then you
must make time for it, treat it like an appointment for yourself and don’t let
anything get in the way. I find this to only be so realistic, sure you can
carve out the time on paper but life is a fluid and ever changing animal which has
demands you cannot ignore. However what this bit of advice really refers to is
poor time management.
Like many people in their mid-20’s I have a short attention span (kung fu is
helping me work on that), I am in college, I love video games, and I have a job and
family. Many of these things have mandatory time requirements and are only flexible
when it benefits them and not me (I’m thinking about work mostly). However,
there are things in that list which are much more flexible and can be shifted,
cut and extended to serve me VS have me serve them.
The only way I have been able to reclaim any mount of my
time is by making a schedule which spans the entirety of my waking day. Every
minuet accounted for and blocked for a semi-specific task. I say semi-specific
because a block like “meditation” can be used a number of ways. I could do Tai
Chi, I could sit and breath, I could go for a walk, or journal ect. Many
activities can be labeled this way. The important thing for me was getting the
time to not only do everything I must but also the things I want to which make
me happy. After all if we run around only taking care of the “work” we never
have time for the “fun” and then life just becomes drab and even unpleasant. I know this won't work for everyone, and I would love to hear how all of you reclaim your "lost" time.
So now that I have found the time to work out, how on Earth
do I overcome how far I have fallen from where I was when I was at my previous “peak”.
2: Get over it!
This has been a very tiring mental blockade for me personally.
Every time I train lately some part of my brain is spending energy nostalgically
remembering the times when I was more fit, had better endurance, was more flexible
ect. At these time I must shake myself and remember when I was 16 I didn’t have
a job, I had the luxury of next to zero
concerns other than training and sleep, and I didn’t even have to pay
for my own lessons.
So yes now-a-days I have to work that much harder because I
have to juggle 9-10 other things at any one time. Challenge accepted! The key
here is not to get hung up on what was. Toss yesterday out the window and focus
on today right now and the task at hand. If you have slipped a bit, put on
extra pounds, can’t run as far, forgot the forms, it is all ok. With time it
will come back, be gentle with yourself and you will see progress come much
smoother than if you beat yourself up every time you have a memory about how
things were a decade ago.
3: Get off your butt!
No really get up! Walk away from your computer and go do
whatever it is you keep wishing you “had time” to do (unless that thing is read
this blog in which case that is so cool, and carry on); the blog will be here later.
Now here is the only tricky part in all honesty. Doing it,
whatever “it” may happen to be. Be it, Kung Fu, Tai Chi, run, write, read,
sleep, anything. If you want something once you have made the time and set your
focus all you need to do is start. Take it slow, if you only manage five
minutes, that is ok, but darn it make it five minutes consistently for a week.
Once you can manage that much you have begun formulating a habit, and then you
can extend your time from there.
4: Letting go
What you will find at some point ( or many points) in this
process are the things that want to get in your way. Video games are a big one
for me, and while there is a time for them, they aren't helping me achieve my
overall goals so they can take a back seat to other stuff. It could also be a
person, that buddy who will call you up just as you want to tie your sash and get
to training will call you up and ask you to hit the bar with them, or some variation.
Now the real question comes. Do I train or go hang? I can’t answer for you,
that answer depends on many variables. But You do have to ask yourself, if I
don’t train will this visit actually benefit me over all? Will I be investing
my time in enriching who I want to be or will I be wasting my time and energy?
You may have to let go of some unhealthy or frivolous relationships, both personal
Now all of this is great but don’t trap yourself in a box
that lacks all spontaneity. My schedule doesn't account for things that only
happen once in a while. Sure every now and again I’ll hang out with people
other than my family, and I have to buy food at some point. Let your hair down
sometimes, it won’t kill you. If you are consistent in the good thing in your
life one break every now and again is healthy. It will keep life interesting,
which is what it is all about.
As I recently revamped my schedule I have been taking it through
a mini test phase to tweak it and alter it as I find things could work better.
This phase is important to the process to allow for growth into the new
lifestyle. Along with these changes I
hope to be able to keep bringing new stuff to this forum.
How to manage fear and better your life.
To be afraid is a natural part of life. Especially in
matters of change, once we are “comfortable” we as people have a tendency to
cling to that place in our lives; even if that place is not what we want or is
not good for us. I have touched on the subject of change before as I have
written but my primary topic today will be how fear relates to change.
With all change can come this element of fear, before I
first started training in kung fu I was a bit anxious. Going to a new activity
where I didn’t really know too many of the people and was totally unfamiliar
with the subject matter. There are a lot of rational fears involved there; will
I be any good at it? Will I make friends? What will my teacher be like? Will I
look silly? These are small things however these are the exact fears which
prevent people from trying martial arts at all.
When I made the decision to join the military I went through
another gauntlet of fears; I could get hurt. Will I fail and shame my family? I
have to leave everything I have ever known, I won’t know anyone. I will have to
move a lot. I will have to deploy, I
might have to be armed. I might not get a job I like. On and on and on I went
with these thoughts. These are all rational fears which spring up when on makes
life changing decisions. Every time I move again I must go through them again
and face them and overcome them so that I can focus and do what much be done
Everyday I talk to people who are facing a life changing
choice or series of choices. Often times we must weigh the options placed ahead
of us in order to determine which path is best for us given all the
circumstances involved. This is logical
and even smart; the danger comes when we allow these kinds of questions to
prevent us from evolving in our lives. In many instances choosing to remain
“put” might just cause us a bit of unhappiness. However in certain situations
failing to act, failing to change our lives can cause many more problems than
the ones we fear. Our health can suffer, our finances can suffer, our children
can suffer; and in some instances all of these things can happen at once
causing massive amounts of stress and pain for all involved. During these times
it is most important that we recognize that there is a problem, even if we just
feel a lack of fulfillment in our lives or have too much stress at work.
Whatever the case is we must be open to seeing it and then we must commit to
changing our situation for the better.
More often that not this is very difficult and can involve
large changes like moving or leaving a terrible job or even leaving a
relationship or friendship. It is during these times that we must do true and
honest soul searching; we must decide what is best for us and for our children
if they are involved. This means facing fear in the first place facing the fear
that comes during the soul searching. Facing what brought us to the place we
are now, facing our faults and missteps. But at the end of the day we all must
be able to look into the mirror and lay our heads down to sleep. This is much
easier to do when we know that we are making good choices even if they are
frightening and difficult choices.
There are many things which have helped me to make difficult
decisions; to better aid all of you, I will list a few of them. I hope you find
1: Talk it out: Grab a friend or your spouse, your kid, even
your dog. Just talk out your problem out loud, write it down and read it back
to yourself. The act of verbalizing the words can lead us to see parts of
problems that elude us when we only let them roll around our heads. This method
also has a double purpose in that it can serve as a form of stress relief.
2: Get away: Vacations can be expensive, however a getaway
does not have to be long, expensive, or even outside of your home. What it
should be is soothing, different, and fit who you are. For me a good run out
into a sunny field or into some hills where I can just sit and be away in the
warmth is often enough to make me feel even a little bit better. The best part is it is free! Picking up a
book is great for some people I know, my own Grandmother enjoys jigsaw puzzles
and yard work.
Whatever it is for you take a bit of time for yourself to
NOT dwell on your problems; even if you can only manage ten or fifteen minutes
between appointments. Giving your mind and spirit a chance to decompress is
sometimes enough to help you see the right path when you do revisit your
3: Dive in! I have done this myself when I know I must move
and am afraid of the path ahead. Take a deep breath and shout out CANNON BALL!
Get in there and find out what there is to see and do. It is one of the fastest ways to strip away
your fear; just be sure you know where the pool ladder is just in case the deep
end isn’t for you. Nothing says that all changes must be permanent.
4: Moving on: This one is very hard because it involves
leaving the relationships that are bad for us. Sometimes in life we encounter
relationships or relationships we have change and no longer serve to help make
us better. They can even debilitate us to the point of keeping us down. Leaving
people is a very hard thing to do especially if you are the kind of person who likes to try to help build up others. However, what we all have to realize is that
some people do not want to change and won’t no matter what. Sometimes the only way
people change is by losing those they care about.
Ultimately we must all do what is best for ourselves and our family
even if that means leaving a relationship with someone else. If someone in your
life does things which upset you either by hurting themselves, with their
lifestyle, their habits, carelessness, addictions whatever it is; talk to them
about it and if they do not feel a need to adjust their life even for their own
sake or for yours then it is often best to move on. I have done this myself and
while it is hard the feeling of relief you have when you no longer have to deal
with the extra drama and stress is so amazing and is worth it.
Whatever the change, whatever the choice, whatever the fear
take time to think it through and find your options, but Please do not allow
your fear to keep you down and prevent you from making your life better.
As always your comments and suggestions for future posts are
I learned during my year away.
some of you may know I have spent this last year in South Korea. During this
year I have spent much of my time working. However; I have also had the chance
to reflect on many things about who I am, my goals, life choices and who I want
to become. I originally wanted to spend this year in (mostly) quiet seclusion;
training, studying, getting better at my job and really learning who I was.
was able to do all of these things; however, I did not dedicate the kind of time
i really wanted to. This in itself was a lesson in how life works. The
following is a recount of what I have encountered during my last 12 months
Things happen: this was a big one for me. We all know that in life sometimes
things just happen and we cannot do much about them. This was how my trip
started. Being a military member sometimes I am faced with a move and then I
have to change my entire life. This creates an element of flexibility in who I
am and how I "settle" into a life.
Independence: I have always been a bit independent, wanting to do things for
myself without too much help. Wanting to find my own way and accomplish things
in a way that spoke to me. Yet there is something about moving to a foreign
country, alone, that really forces you to branch out. One must learn to
navigate a new place where you don’t speak the language and have no idea where
things are. You have to learn how to make new friends and have to be willing to
take the risks associated in this realm.
Humility: This has been a hard one for me until recently, I have generally been
used to knowing what I am doing and how things need to be done. However, as I
mentioned above when it come to being in a place where you cannot speak to the
people and have a conversation and when you have no idea where anything is
there is only a few ways to learn. You can wander aimlessly, which can be fun
or very scary and frustrating. Or you can swallow your pride and ask for help.
Even though most of the people here do not speak English (the only language I
know) they are still very willing to help you.
It tends to be a lot of pointing at maps and trying to figure out how
things are pronounced and a lot of gesturing; but when you finally figure out
where you are going you both smile and part way a bit more knowledgeable and a
lot more humble.
also entered a job that I had never done before in a fast paced area where
thing could change in an instant. Questions were a necessary evil; sometimes I
was told to try to look up the answer myself, sometimes I wasn’t given an
answer I liked, sometimes no one knew. But each time I became more comfortable
with the fact that I didn’t know what was happening or how to do something.
is something kids can teach us to be ok with. As little ones we know nothing;
we learn by experience and by asking questions; the same with martial arts.
Somehow as we grow toward adulthood we lose the willingness to admit we don't know things. We become afraid of looking foolish, or seeming to lack
confidence. However as I have had to go back to learning I realize that if I do
not ask questions I will never get better. If I can find the answer on my own
then wonderful, but if my written guidance, personal experience and gut
instinct are all unhelpful I must ask questions if I ever want to progress in
Motivation is made not found: Through out this year I have gone through many
twists and turns, ups and downs; the one thing I was always looking for was
motivation. However what I noted most recently was that we don’t find
motivation, we must create it. It might be because we formulate a goal, or want
to set and example for someone or by medical or carrier necessity. But if
something does not speak to you, you will not be motivated. Also what is
motivation today may not be motivating tomorrow but can motivate you the day
I have taken to doing when I wake up everyday, and sometimes through out the
day is to find what it is that motivate me right now, today! Some days it is
simple and small, other days I’m prepping right now for where I may be 10 years
from now. Whatever it is if I do not take the time to find my motivation my day
is shot, and I become very unproductive and even unhappy.
It is ok to use your current situation to your advantage: I have come to
realize that my current job does not make me happy, however you can’t simply
“quit” the military the way you can with most jobs. Honestly I wouldn’t want
to; I am in a good position to save money while I have a stable secure job with
benefits. So I intend to get everything I can out of it. Some people look at me
funny when I say this however I do not feel at all guilty about it.
is the breakdown:
still do my job to the best of my ability. This means that I am still giving
back for the pay that I am receiving.
try to help others. If they need to learn the job I try to teach them; if they
need help getting fit, I train with them; if they just need someone to talk to,
I listen. This improves the military community leaving ready and capable people
behind me when I leave.
am up front when people ask me if I am going to “stay in”. I tell who ever it
is my plans and intentions if I am asked. Not only does this show that I have a
plan but it helps people learn a bit more about who I am and what I am driven
am sure I learned a lot more during my time away but these wee the big things.
Sometimes the related to Kung Fu and self-defense; sometimes they did not but
all of them were related to life and becoming a better more capable person.
think this is really the important thing when we come upon new and frightening
or even challenging circumstances. We must find a way to make the obstacles
work for us! When we can do this we become unstoppable in our growth.
In other news I have started a Facebook page for Private Kung Fu Instruction!
The Private Kung Fu Community page is now live! This page will be active for
users to check out self-defense techniques, Kung Fu and Tai Chi philosophy,
news articles and how other systems have much to offer Kung Fu as well. As it
grows it will become a great place to meet new training partners get new ideas
and get community input on questions.
free to check it out by clicking the image below.